How to Be Comfortable When Starting a New Job

It is estimated that we, as average Americans, haveeveryone else. This, ultimately, results in not
between eight and ten jobs in our lifetimes. Whileimpressing others, and just depressing yourself.
many of these job changes may be for positiveAsk Questions
matters - a more challenging career, betterPeople like to talk... about themselves, about their
advancement, more lucrative pay - the fact remainskids, about the time they landed a merger between
that starting a new job can be one of the biggesttwo giant corporations. Showing interest in a
stresses in life. The reasons for this vary. For somecoworker will make them interested in you: people
of us, learning the technicalities, the ins and outs, of aare often their own favorite subjects. If you're
new job may be the biggest burden. For others,having trouble mingling with others, simply pick
learning the way around the building - how to get tosomething out about them and ask questions. Point
the coffee pot and the restroom - may proveto a picture on their desk and ask if that's their
difficult. And, for some, simply learning where thespouse, ask them where they grew up or how it is
new office is located may be the biggestthey landed a job at the company. And, if you're
inconvenience.having trouble with an aspect of your job, ask
However, for the majority of new jobbers, chancesquestions about it. People are often more than willing
are the greatest intimidation factor, the one thatto share their knowledge; most people will jump at
causes the most anxiety, is simply meeting newthe chance to convey their own intelligence.
people. Walking into a job where everyone seems toBe Professional
know each other - patting each other on the backEveryone is not professional at their job at one point
and asking about little Johnny's soccer game - can beor another. If you work somewhere long enough, a
overwhelming for the person who knows no one. Itfew flawed moments are sure to creep in. People
causes a fear resembling high school, as theshow up late, or put their legs on top of the desk,
newcomer wonders who they will sit with at lunch.stretching out as they type a memo. People take
Though this may seem like an occasion drowning intoo long making personal phone calls or spend an
discomfort, there are a few things that can be donehour in the bathroom talking about their coworker's
to make it as smooth a transition as possible.botched perm job. People take an extra long lunch,
Dress the Partsneaking back into the office when their boss isn't
It's hard to gauge what kind of clothes to wear onworking, or take a ream of computer paper home
the first day of the job. While many offices are listedfor their personal use. While everyone is guilty of
as "business casual," the term "casual" leaves a lot tobeing unprofessional at times, don't use these times
be interpreted. For some of us, casual may beat the beginning of your job. You see, we build to
wearing slacks and a button down shirt, for others itthat.
may be wearing jeans and a t-shirt. Still, for a few,Take People Up on Invitations
casual may simply mean wearing to work what wasJobs are often filled with the opportunities to be
worn to bed.social. From a happy hour to a lunch outing, from a
For a new job, it's best to err on the side of cautionTupperware party to a company softball game,
and prepare to be overdressed rather thanbehind every cubicle wall there is the ability to get to
underdressed. Wearing a suit while everyone else isknow your coworkers. While you may hold onto the
wearing slacks and blouses will go over much betternotion that you are at a job to work and not at a
than wearing jeans while everyone else is wearing ajob to make friends, it's proven that those who
suit.enjoy their coworkers enjoy their job much more.
Don't One up PeopleSo, when coworkers invite you to after hour
There seems to be an unwritten rule laced within theget-togethers, take them up on it. You don't have to
insecurities of each person, a rule that tells us to "tryshow up to every outing, or be the life of the party,
to impress people" when we are nervous. While thisdonning the proverbial lamp shade on your head, but
may sometimes serve the intended purpose, moreattend and get to know the people with whom you
often than not, it backfires. Take for instance thiswork. Show them that you are a team player both in
example: as a newcomer overhears an establishedthe office and outside of it.
coworker say that they just had their first paperStarting a new job can be uncomfortable, but it's
published in a medical journal, the newcomer steps insomething everyone goes through. Heeding the
to speak of their two articles previously published.above advice and just relaxing can make it easier. If
While the person who is new is just trying to 'lookthat doesn't work, keep this in mind: the person at
good" in front of coworkers, trying to impress themthe company who has worked there the longest -
can come across more as arrogant, and a littlethe person who knows everyone, who remembers
desperate. To make matters worse, when thepeoples' birthdays, who gives the toast at the
impressing is tagged onto a coworker's own boasting,company Christmas party - even they were once a
the newcomer looks like someone out to one-upnew employee.