Understanding and Overcoming the Fear in Starting Over

There are no secret formulas that can bring ease toIt was the first time in my life that I had felt beaten
the mind of someone that is considering theand lost. I became so scared for my family's future,
opportunity of starting over. I use the wordthat I became angry. It was not the anger of fear
opportunity because that is exactly what is offeredthat had taken residence in my mind. It was the
in the process of doing something new, withanger of loosing control of my family's life that ignited
something old. Though, to many people it may oftensomething new in the circumstance of something old.
feel discouraging and relentless, it can also feelThe more that I considered the fact that I was not
empowering and restoring if its true perspectives oralone in this array of misfortune, the angrier I
alternatives are allowed to penetrate through thebecame. There were hundreds of thousands of
conditions of a person's past experience.families that were being influenced by circumstance in
In many cases starting over imposes stiflingthe same way. Many of you were amongst those
conditions of fear that can overwhelm the minds andstruggling families. The conditions and circumstances
life conditions of even the most rational thinkingof that misfortune was most likely, not do to your
people in our lives.own actions. But the appearance in your circumstance
Though this fear possesses no power of its own, itwas so convincing that it became an accepted reality.
is recognizably known to be a consumer of:ourCircumstance was operating at its best and
expression of dignityour respect for our abilityour willwelcoming us all to its pity party. Life had changed
to persevereour hope for opportunityour energy toand starting over became very familiar to an
do moreour belief in prosperityour enthusiasm for lifeastounding amount of families.
to produce growth and developmentFighting Back
But even in its most active state of stifling your mindI like many family members made the decision to
and your life, it remains vulnerable. It cannot operatefight back. My friends and I had began to not only
without your consent. You are the master andsharing concerns, but also share strategies to
granter of its power. Circumstance may present itselfovercome our circumstances. It was as though our
as being a controlling factor in the accumulation ofcommunity of friends had been reborn with new
power that the fear in starting over presents, but aspurposes. Circumstance was in for a fight and my
I have stated in the past, "Circumstance is a Liar". Oldfamily was not gonna lose.
conditions or circumstances do not represent theWhile fear tried its best to dominate my family's
opportunities in the new conditions that you arethinking, we fought back with positive affirmations,
willing to present into your life.actions and influences. Like many people, we had
When you engage in the acceptance that challenge isdecided that we were stronger than the
an opportunity to do things better, you strengthencircumstance that had been placed before us.
the purpose in your opportunity and weaken theLife changed, when we changed our thinking and
given power in the fear of starting over. "Challenge"executed positive actions. That is when starting over
(chal·lenge: An act or statement of defiance; a callbecame an opportunity to do something new, with
to confrontation) is the most appropriate word that Isomething old. Very similar to many of you that were
can personally consider when encountering fear thatfaced with similar conditions, life became fun again
is related to starting over.and our true reality took its course within our lives.
Sharing My ExperienceRalph Waldo Emerson was once quoted as saying, "A
I can remember when I was faced with the mostman is what he thinks about all day long". I've heard
challenging consideration of starting over in my life. Itand have created many positive quotes that can
was several years ago when I was being downsizedalter the stages of our lives, but this quotes is special.
from what I considered to be the job of my dreams.It holds true to how we can empower ourselves
I had relocated my family nearly 1,200 miles from ourthrough any challenge that is placed before us.
home in Virginia to Minnesota. The company hadTherefore, if you are being faced with the fear of
invested a substantial amount of money for mystarting over. It is important that you take an
family and I to relocate to Minnesota. Then 9/11 tookinventory of you and your family's mindset and
place and the technology industry went south.actions. In achieving this awareness you will then be
Companies were downsizing for survival,specialable to implement the changes needed to regain
funded projects were being eliminated and lifestylesfocus and power within your life.
were being destroyed. The company that I workedTogether we can help each of us overcome this
for had merged with another company in Iowa andstifling element within our lives....
96% of my entire team was being downsized soIf starting over has ever been a challenge for you
that our workload could be moved to a more costand or your family, please share your experiences
effective location in Iowa.and or remedies in your reply....
Circumstance was doing its job. For a short period ofAll of us would like to know....
time in my life, I was convinced that all that I hadRelated Quote:
worked for in my life had come to an end. For nearlyThe greatest discovery of my generation is that
eleven months I was unemployed. The bills werehuman beings can alter their lives by altering their
piling up and technology jobs were nowhere to beattitudes of mind.
found.