The Most Important Skill for Techies to Succeed

Hint: It's about people, NOT computers.and feel -- or the work doesn't get done.
Several years ago, I had a problem with somePoliticians must understand how the voters think and
Microsoft software. I traded along series of emailsfeel -- or they lose the election.
with a Microsoft customer "service representative"Husbands and wives must understand how their
that was a nightmare.spouses think and feel -- or they get divorced.
No matter what I wrote, he refused to read it inTechies are NOTORIOUS for their inability to
sentence by sentence format. He scanned it forunderstand non-techies.
keywords, then sent off some canned message thatRemember, we don't know what you take for
had nothing to do with my particular problem. Hisgranted. Don't be arrogant just because of your
non-responsive responses quite obviously showedtechnical knowledge. If you needed heart surgery
that he had not read or understood my emails.would you want to go to a doctor who looked down
Finally, my extreme anger and frustration got acrossat you because of your lack of knowledge of Latin
to him, and he referred me to a supervisor who wasand the intimate details of your body's structure and
willing to actually read, understand and then solve mychemistry?
problem.Take a minute right now and think about someone
What is this most important business skill the MSwho's close to you but not really like you. Your wife
techie failed to practice?or husband, your roommate, whoever.
It's learning how to put yourself in another person'sIf they came to you for help with a virus on their
frame of reference. That is, to understand whathard drive, could you help them without feeling smug
they're feeling, what they're thinking and whatabout your superior knowledge of PCs? Could you
they're understanding.adapt your level of understanding to theirs?
It's easy to write. It's easy to think you already do itNext time you have an argument with a significant
even though you don't.other or friend, take a deep breath instead of getting
Businesses must understand how their customersangry. Take a mental step away and look at both of
think and feel -- or they are put out of business byyou as though you were a Martian anthropologist
competitors who do.observing the behavior of Earthlings.
Workers must understand how their co-workersJust practice seeing the situation from their point of
think and feel -- or they make enemies.view -- even if it is "wrong." :)
Employees must understand how their bosses thinkKeep on practicing with friends, co-workers and
and feel -- or they get fired or passed over foreverybody else.
promotions.And yes, this is a skill everybody needs.
Bosses must understand how their employees think